Black Lies Matters PT.8 “ Hell Hath No Fury Like A Black Woman Scorned “

While dining in at my local fast food restaurant in my neighborhood a group young ladies sat down at the table next to me.

They were school girls and as I sat there eating my quarter dark with salt/pepper and mild sauce ( It’s A Chicago Thing) I was not ready for what I was about to hear.

To say they there was profanity would be an understatement.

And to say that they were loud would not be an exaggeration.

As a advocate for at risk youth in Chicago and around the world I realize that young have a particular type of freedom and independence in their groups.

I also understood that there are risk that exist when young people are left to themselves.

On this Wednesday afternoon at Harold’s all that I wanted was to enjoy my meal in peace and head to my cigar lounge and relax.

That didn’t happen, what happen was quite the opposite at least and far as enjoying my meal in peace.

This group of young ladies began by talking about a young lady at their school that for some reason none of them liked.

One of the young ladies “Erica” they called her, had gotten into a fight with earlier this year and Erica apparently got a five day suspension because she had ambushed ( Attacked someone without them knowing there was an issue) the other girl.

Also according to Erica she (Erica) got the worst end of this fracas having her weave snatched out and breaking her iPhone.

You are probably thinking, Man he was ear hustling.however, No I wasn’t. this wasn’t the case. these young ladies were loud, very loud.

At some point Kim spoke out, she was the heaviest ( No fat shaming) one in the group she was also the loudest.

She made a claim that her “ Mom, don’t play”

She continues that her Mom had stabbed a former boyfriend and that she (Her Mom) (Got Off) and even though she (her Mom) was questioned but not charged.

These is an interesting identity that I have found that is synonymous with Black women.

We see it everywhere.

In the workplace on television and movies there is this idea that the Black Woman Is uncontrollable and angry.

In the words of Bruno Mars “Don’t Believe Me Just Watch “

You Can’t Take Them “Anywhere”

Whether it is one of the “Housewives “ shows.

Love And Hip Hop.

Facebook .

Empire.

Or anyone of Tyler Perry’s movies you will see her represented or for the sake of this blog “Misrepresented”

Girl-rillas is a popular term used to describe this behavior.

As I listen to these young ladies I wonder if they have a chance in a world that is becoming less and less tolerant of this behavior.

I have always believed that art imitates life. However, in the case of all of the hiphop based programming I have heard that more of the parents are watching and imitating these performers.

Their daughters.

Well, they are there or within a “ Earshot “ of this stage misinterpretation of Black Womanhood.

Who’s responsible and who will help them?

The Children.

Also “Is this true, is this how they really are?

Stop, for a moment.

Now go to Google and look up “ Loud mouth Black Woman “

What did you find?

This is something that I found.

Angry Black Woman is an American trope that black women are “sassy, ill-mannered, and tempered by nature”, employing the terms “Sapphire” or “Sassy Black Woman”. The Angry Black Woman myth assumes that black women are aggressive.

The Angry Black Woman stereotype has not been studied to the same degree as the mammy and Jezebel archetypes.[citation needed] Some scholars, e.g. Dionne Bennett and Marcyliena Morgan, suggest that the stereotype is less studied because researchers accept it as true.[1][unreliable source?][2] en.m.wikipedia.org

Isn’t it interesting that there isn’t or wasn’t any research done on the subject (myth) because “ It Is Assumed To Be True”?

As far as where this “Assumed” stereotype came from there are a few suggestions one being the Black Woman being considered invisible and irrelevant in the community and the world.

A way of being “Heard”

Sounding out or sounding off.

Black feminists who challenge Angry Black Woman myth:

The angry Black woman myth also shapes how others read and interpret the actions of Black women. There are various sources, platforms and mediums that Black women use to shed light on the impact of the myth. A number of Black women provide insight on how the myth is reinforced in the media, social spaces and interpersonal interactions. Furthermore, Black women whether if it’s through activism, academia, art, dance, or writing validate, affirm their rage. They do so by explaining and debunking the myth and explaining their anger.[citation needed] en.m.wikipedia.com

Iyanla Vanzant chimes in:

In the first of a four-part special event, Iyanla Vanzant invites eight women to move into her House of Healing. The women, including a single mother, several victims of child abuse, and a set of twins—one of whom was attacked by an ex-boyfriend—all share one thing in common: They have all been labeled as angry black women. Iyanla’s intention is to prove that this stereotype is inaccurate, untrue and dangerous.

oprah.com

Read more: http://www.oprah.com/own-iyanla-fix-my-life/iyanla-challenges-the-myth-of-the-angry-black-woman#ixzz5B53vb7tM

What can I say?

Even though I see something that I do not like.

There are many that don’t see a problem with this stereotype.

My reason for attempting to blog on the subject is a generation that appears to believe that this behavior is normal and acceptable behavior.

That it should be considered a way to be heard.

That there is nothing that can or should be done about it.

To them I will only say.

Ladies, if you are going to defend,define and control your narrative there has to be someway and someone that represents you.

And that representative must not speak so loudly that they drowned their constituency.

Constituency:

The people that you represent and that represents you.

—noun, plural con·stit·u·en·cies.

a body of constituents; the voters or residents in a district represented by an elective officer.

the district itself.

any body of supporters, customers, etc.; clientele.

As for the ladies at the table next to mine. I don’t know what happened with their meeting went because I left shortly after Kim’s remarks about her Mom.

Part 2 “More Answers” coming soon

Arnoldmrdadtate –

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