Bruce Me PT. 1 “Sick Men Of Asia” #bruceme

This is a tribute as my life has been from the age 15 when it appeared everyone around the world was falling in love with Martial Arts movies I believe that they began in ’71/’72 and I was equally fascinated with them.

Bruce Lee was my favorites and I had memories of him from the television series ” The Green Hornet and kato ”

This is when I became a fan, Once the series was cancelled I looked for and read every article that I could find in ” Black Belt” magazine.

That is where you went to find martial arts and martial artist news.

There were many cameos on “Here come the Bride” Ironside”, Longstreet…

I did not miss an episode, he also was said to be one of the writers of a then script called ” Silent Flute” as well as a series call “The Warrior” that he thought he’d star in ,which was given the name ” Kung Fu” starring a non-Asian.

My experience with Bruce is and will always be a high point in my life,son of a single Mom the oldest boy of four my sister was (2) years older than me.

Not having a father in the home (Bruce Lee) easily became my roll model.

Our world has always need a jolt, awakening to empathy and what really matters and that is what I found in the Man.The Myth, The Legend.

In the movie titled “Fist of Fury” U.S. name change “The Chinese Connection” Our hero who is a martial arts student arrives home just in time to bury his Teacher that was found to have been murdered.

As an act of disrespect and disregard for the students in mourning of their beloved (Teacher), at this time early 20th century the relationship between the Chinese and Japanese was strained.

Students from a rival school who were responsible for their “Master” demise enter the (Jingwu) school and began to cause problems “Chen” (Bruce Lee) is unaware at this time how bad things are.

There is a tense moment because the Japanese carousers notice this” stranger” and begin to harass him (Chen) going as far as slapping him in the face.

It was a tough job to fend off the taunts and the disgraceful behavior however with the encouragement of fellow mourners (Chen) exercised “Self Control ”

That is until the rival student present what was one of the worst insults a sign, and on that sign the words,

“Sick Men Of Asia”

The statement on the sign had only one purpose well, maybe 2 and that was to,

1.)Hurl a degrading remark/ insult these students in the midst of mourning (kick them while they were down)

2.) Suggest that the Chinese were weak…

It doesn’t end there.

The Japanese student challenged the Chinese students to a fighting match.

They also state that if they are beaten by Chinese they would eat there words “Literally”…

My admiration for Bruce Lee and a hero,idol, father figure stemmed from scenes like.

Being bullied

Being misunderstood

Being underestimated

In most of his movies he didn’t appear as a hothead even though many of the stories told about him suggesting that he was in fact short tempered.

I however learned a lot about life, manhood,loyalty and courage for him.

Chen (Bruce’s character) out of his respect for his master and at the coaxing of the elders “kept his cool”

Once the Chen had a moment to think about all that transpired he changed clothes (Grabbed a pair of Nunchakus) and paid the “Funeral Crashers” a visit.

Upon entering their school Chen unwraps the framed sign that had be gifted to his school and saying,

I’m returning this to you, he goes on to say that they may take it from and then get out also he said whenever your ready I’ll take on any Japanese here.

This movie is one of the many movies that requires translation and as we listen to Chen dialogue with these guys he sound like a real “Bad Dude”

There he was at the when he exclaimed “Mr. Suzuki isn’t he your Cheif ” ? The young man that approached Chen “So you wanna see how good you are, then you must be tired of living “… Chen says “We can fight alone, or altogether”…

A fight ensued and after some help from his trusted nunchakus young Chen defeated the entire class.

As a final act of humiliation Chen beckons the 2 guy that has visited his school with a “Fight Wager ” and forced their to eat their words

And then it happened the moment we all stood up and begin applauding.

Now you listen to me,I’ll only say it once… “We Are Not Sick Men”…

It is important that we understand the climate and times as well as the strides that have been made between these 2 great nations.

It is also important that we look at this story as a cautionary tale about relationships,empathy and compassion.

What I learned from Bruce (Chen) is that even though you are well meaning in your attempt towards getting or being respected, there is a considerable chance that you haven’t looked at both sides nor the consequences of your particular action…

Aliens Among Us

I would have liked to use the word Extraterrestrial however though they are foreign they are actually born right here “On Planet Earth”also they are citizens of various cities.

I am even going to go out on a limb and say that they have set up shop in the Urban/Black community.

Interesting though It may seem, they have a distinction that over time has waned. I mean,they were everywhere and involved in every aspect of our lives and we weren’t in the least bothered by their presence.

And then for some reason we became aware of their absence or maybe they went into some kind of hibernation because of fear or being over exposed or overexposed or even lost their significance,relevance or importance…?

You see when they first arrived it was clear the role that they would play and it was also clear that the benefits they’d bring to a world that lacked direction or a sense of civic responsibility it is also peculiar clear that The “Whole World” was defending their presence even though we (The Urban) were fine without their.

1.))Interference
2.) Security
3.) Discipline
4.) Direction
5.) accountability

Who are they and where did they come from because as we look at this world, we are just fine.and in a moment there they were directing,correcting and exposing…

“They call it guiding” some families enjoyed their presence because as they would say “It brought order” and “We feel secure” while others considered them a “Nuisance” disruptive…

Oh and their “Voices” compared to the voices that we are accustomed to is brash and threatening even scary.

My childhood existed without any of these disruptions it was my Mom, (1) Sister and (2) Brothers and we had what I had come to believe as “Normal” that is until my Mom wanted to make a slight change to our bliss.

You guessed it “She got married” oh and yes my first encounter with the discipline,direction and you know the rest you see the “Alien” is a type of “Space Invader” that disrupts our sense of “Normal”

His “Voice”.. his unwillingness to “Negotiate” and all those “Isms” like

Don’t count your chickens before they hatch.
You think you’re nickel slick.
There is no free lunch.
You don’t know your “a..” from a hole in the ground.

It had become clear that in an attempt to program me or brainwash me my Mother invited the “Man”…Father figure.. Stepfather into our seemingly peace and complete family unit.

And I need to say that there was no warmup or warning of what I and my (3) brothers and (1) sister would be in for. I was the oldest and though my sister had me by 2 years at the time I was 14 and, let me put it this way (I wasn’t having it)

There was a wedding and my Mom was pregnant My Stepfather came into our home as the “Boss” at least as far as he was concerned and as you might figure “Mom, though she tried “ wasn’t going to make it as a referee.

You see. In the previous months before “The Invasion” my Stepfather visited never staying the night. (It was the early 70’s and things were different). He was kind to us and it even appeared that he care about us.

The Announcement :
One night after a date, Mom came home and sat the (4) of us down and asked what we thought of (Derric) fictional name…

Well, you may imagine how that went
Me: Very paranoid and very protective of my siblings. “He’s OK.
Brother #1: He’s nice,I like him.
Brother #2: He does things for us,he’s nice.
Sister: He’s nice,I guess.

OK, for real this time…
What do you guys think about (Derric) We are getting married?

What did we possibly think this meant. We didn’t have a clue. We didn’t have an idea of what this would mean or what it didn’t mean. We did know however that “Mom” was happy and well it wasn’t as if she was asking for our permission.

As I began this story I spoke of an( Alien)a force, a “Space Invaders” depicting something or someone foreign and in certain communities this is the case.

It appears that somewhere in them 60’s,70’s and in the decades that followed it became a common thing to have children without marriage. It also became common for young ladies and woman to bare the responsibility of children without a “Man”..,

DeBoer’s Story:
One-third of American children are growing up, as DeBoer did, without their biological father, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. In the past 50 years, the percentage of children who live with two married parents has dropped 22 points. During that same time, the number of babies born to unwed mothers jumped from 5 percent to 40 percent.

Fatherless America? A third of children now live without their dad
ByElizabeth Stuart@elizmstuart
Published: May 21, 2011 11:00 p.m.

The growing trend of father absence could have grave implications for society, researchers say, because having dad around has been linked to important developments in a child’s physical, emotional and behavioral health. At the same time, though, research indicates it’s not enough just to have a male figure in the home.

Several leading sociologists have labeled father absence “the most pressing issue facing America today.” Alarmed by growing evidence of the importance of fatherhood, President Barack Obama, who was raised by a single mother, has forcefully pleaded with fathers to step up throughout his presidency..deserettnews.com

I have a lot to say about the role of a father and even some Stepfathers when it comes to the family and more particularly the Black families.

The reason that I refer to them the “Stepfather and the fathers that do not marry the mother of their children as “Aliens” is connected in the “Home” and the house dynamic.

Mom may in many ways not see or understand the young males manipulating patterns.
Mom,Aunts and Grandmother may not immediately identify the need for the “young man or ladies” the balance that takes place when “negotiations” break down and have the tendency to buckle or give in.
When a Mom puts her foot down in discipline or punishment takes place, because of her “unique design” she may assume that the new behavior is the result of the child’s “ Angelic Nature” surfacing and surrounding (when in fact it in the punishment that produces his/her modified behavior … making things worse.
Dress codes, Hairstyles as well as social situations sometimes need the participation of Dad.
Relationships both in society and at home, with females and males are tempered by the (2) parent paradigm…Josh McDowell has an interesting quote: rules without relationship brings rebellion…

In a lot of ways I may have surrendered to this perceived “ Invasion and this tug of war that took place with (Derric) may have in some way giving the story a happy ending but real life has a tendency to reject the “Happy Endings” that we feel that we need to find closure, understanding or hope and though I am willing to admit I learned a lot from Derric and it isn’t only “What not to do”He (Derric) is no longer with us and in our own way we sorted things out before he passed.

You see as I was determined to hold my sense of (Ownership and Bliss) having no idea of what I was doing , ( ism) #5 “Not having a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of” He likewise as a single male that loved a mother with (4) children (Had no blueprint) also he stepped in whereas my Bio father stepped out. And that has to count for something.

He also had a son by my Mom, Derric jr. my little brother and that is also a good thing.

My Mom had her own (ism’s) one of them was “Take a sh&t or get off the pot…

It had a meaning that went something like this…
Do what you have to do to deal with life’s situations and move on

This is me moving on…- The End-

“That’s going to leave a mark”

There was,is and will always be a familiar quotes by Mom’s and Dads everywhere.
One such quote is “that’s going to leave a mark” the idea is connected to a slip and fall, a stunt gone terribly wrong and number of things that may happen as we discover the world as a child.
This idea also serves to alert us to an undesirable,

soon to be memory of something we were told not to do and chose to do “ Our own Way” but in a world where everyone is trying to in some way leave our mark,“ Is Leaving a mark” (Is that really a bad thing?)
Well in that case, it depends, because we live in a time where nothing seems private,everyone have a phone and you have no idea who’s watching you.
Innocence lost:

1.)It seems like just yesterday we had privacy, we spoke to people in person and looked in their eyes.

2.)Our business was our business.

3.)Our children were safe to go out in our neighborhoods.

4.)Bullies were someone you could see and tortured you in person (Not online)

5.) Parents were 2 people and if 1 parent was too busy, not only did you have the other but you could count on them to share the information with the other.
Wow, that would certainly “Leave A Mark”
In the book “My Parents Were Awesome” Eliot Glazer writes .Your mom and dad weren’t always parents. They used to be people—and they were awesome
They bathed you. They fed you. They raised you to become the person you are today. Your parents are an integral part of your story. But guess what? They have a story too—one that started long before you entered the picture. Before embarrassing fanny packs and Lite FM, there was a time when Mom and Dad were young and carefree—just like you. They were also fun and flirty, full of hope and desire and effortlessly cool.
As a Youth Advocate I had become some of kind of. Child whisperer and being asked over and over again “How did you know?” My response would always be “I Remember”..I remember a lot of things about my childhood but most of all “I remember how it felt to feel all alone in a crowded room, how tough it could bet to find and keep friends , and how I needed someone to have” Empathy.”
Empathy

noun
the psychological identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another.

the imaginative ascribing to an object, as a natural object or work of art, feelings or attitudes present in oneself: By means of empathy, a great painting becomes a mirror of the self.

Origin: 1900–05; < Greek empátheia affection, equivalent to em- em-2 + path- (base of páschein to suffer) + -eia -ia; present meaning translates German Einfühlung thank you dictionary.com…
Whether intentionally or accidentally kind or not kind we are to one another It’s “Going to leave a mark”
Your mark is your signature a tattoo of sorts and it gives everyone that comes in contact with you a idea of

1.)who you are.

2.)Where you’ve been.

3.)Who you may have come into contact with.

4.)What you believe.
It may also give them a false sense of the same things because marks,tattoos and scars become a part of our lives for any number of reason ( It called life)
For a moment there it may have appeared that our situation was hopeless/hopeful but I wouldn’t do that to you.life is complex and people are apart of life.
And yes those are “life’s marks” and the only way to erase or at least heal life’s marks is to create a purpose, add value, show empathy. Leaving the world better than you found it…
Samantha Hodder published “ 10 Simple Ways To Make The World A Better Place” and She with the help of other offer some help for us.
As one person I cannot change the world but I can change the world if one person -Paul Shane Spear
Volunteer: Volunteering doesn’t have to consume all of your free time. You can volunteer as few hours as you would like! You can find an organization within your community, or you can even volunteer online, through websites that will allow you to help for even a few minutes at a time.

Donate Blood: This can be one of the most satisfying ways to make a difference. You can literally save a life with just an hour of your time.

Donate Clothing: There are so many places and ways you can donate your used clothing. Some organizations even offer pick up services, Donate them to a homeless shelter, or an organization that sells them to raise funds.

Foster An Animal: This can be such a rewarding experience. If you’re able to part with the foster animals, they leave a hole in your heart, but fostering your next pet helps fill it, and you will be making a difference in the lives of so many animals in need.

Spread The Word About Various Causes In Your Community:See an interesting fundraiser that an organization is hosting? Share it on Facebook! See an animal that’s up for adoption? Share it. There are so many ways you can help an organization with just the click of a mouse.

6. Donate something you made to an organization that can use it:I make jewelry, hats, scarves, and other crafty things in my free time. I’ve donated many hats and scarves to homeless shelters, and donate jewelry to a cat rescue organization for them to sell or auction to raise funds. You have talents—use them!

Join A Bone Marrow Registry:It’s incredibly easy to sign up to donate bone marrow, and you never know when you could save a life.

Spread Some Kindness:Small acts of kindness can go a long way in making the world a better place. Think about a time when someone did something unexpected for you that brightened your day. Weren’t you a nicer person for the rest of the day because of that?
I’m willing to bet that anyone who receives an act of kindness passes it on in some way, even if it’s just by being in a better mood, and therefore treating the people around them with more kindness than usual.
Send someone a kind message. Give a small gift. Make something for someone. Tell someone how much they mean to you. There are so many ways to brighten someone’s day.
Small acts of kindness can go a long way in making the world a better place. Think about a time when someone did something unexpected for you that brightened your day. Weren’t you a nicer person for the rest of the day because of that? I’m willing to bet that anyone who receives an act of kindness passes it on in some way, even if it’s just by being in a better mood, and therefore treating the people around them with more kindness than usual. Send someone a kind message. Give a small gift. Make something for someone. Tell someone how much they mean to you. There are so many ways to brighten someone’s day.

Change Your Diet: Many people will argue with the validity of this strategy to improve the world; however, what you buy reflects what you value.

If you don’t want to become a vegetarian, try having one meat-free day per week. If you don’t want to reduce your meat consumption, how about buying some free range meat or eggs? Or, buy organic food products. There are many ways you can change your diet to reflect your values.
Many people will argue with the validity of this strategy to improve the world; however, what you buy reflects what you value. If you don’t want to become a vegetarian, try having one meat-free day per week. If you don’t want to reduce your meat consumption, how about buying some free range meat or eggs? Or, buy organic food products. There are many ways you can change your diet to reflect your values.

Make Your Purchases Support Your Values: Every purchase you make supports something. You can either support a large business that exploits people, animals, and the environment, or you can buy items that are local, organic, or fair-trade. It’s hard to change this all at once, especially if you’re used to shopping for bargains, but try changing just a few of your purchases to make them better reflect the things you value.
These are just a handful of the thousands of ways you can make the world a better place! Just remember that every single thing you do makes a difference. Don’t ever let anyone—yourself included—discourage you from trying to be a better person and help others.
Every purchase you make supports something. You can either support a large business that exploits people, animals, and the environment, or you can buy items that are local, organic, or fair-trade. It’s hard to change this all at once, especially if you’re used to shopping for bargains, but try changing just a few of your purchases to make them better reflect the things you value. These are just a handful of the thousands of ways you can make the world a better place! Just remember that every single thing you do makes a difference. Don’t ever let anyone—yourself included—discourage you from trying to be a better person and help others.
Now “That will certainly leave a mark”and that is the idea. Taking the mark and remaking or “re branding” it , giving “The Mark” a new purpose…The End

Black Lies Matter

lie1[lahy]

noun

a false statement made with deliberate intent to deceive; an intentional untruth; a falsehood.

synonyms: prevarication, falsification.

antonyms: truth.

something intended or serving to convey a false impression; imposture:

His flashy car was a lie that deceived no one. dictionary.com

There are many “Intentional Untruths” that are told over and over that have become a part of what is perceived and eventually believed.
There are many “Falsifications” that have and yet exist, about the “Original People” their beginning,their investment and their worth.
There are several outright lies that have and will pervade and provoke thoughts in society not only of the “Original People” but “All People” because of ignorance.
ignorance

[ig-ner-uh ns]

noun dictionary.com

the state or fact of being ignorant; lack of knowledge, learning, information, etc. dictionary.com

HipHop Artist KRS-1 said it best “When one doesn’t know about another one Culture, Ignorance swoops down like a Vulture”

I however remain aware of the disturbing storIes that fill television, radio and the internet. Stories of violence against a people that only represent 13.2% of Americas population. Wikipedia.com
What is also interesting is that we are all guilty of “Repeating and Believing” falsehoods and untruths about any number of people. This, however won’t ever end because that is the way that it is with gossip. Which is another way of saying ” I am, and Society is too lazy to commit to change”
What’s more the pipeline and it’s information stream is so convincing that, we take it as it is. Like they say “All stereotypes have a hint of truth” or so goes the adage.
What is worse or at least should appear to be Is, the myths and fables that are told by people or a group that has either been victimized in society which includes ” Everyone gets a turn to become the object of Bias, Stereotypes, and false judgment…
Or at least that is the way that it appears to many. But what if the idea of “Victim” is merely a Ruse,a trick or excuse that a people uses to avoid “Pulling themselves up by their bootstraps”

What if it is another chance for the once “Oppressed,downtrodden” to be heard and well “Isn’t it About Damn Time”
There are many stories Police brutality as well as The Shooting of unarmed victims.The Media did a decent job of telling the story and even today we as a American citizens do not know how to respond/react…

The Original People’s talk about the “Skittles and Iced tea” and we all agree with that. There was an armed community Security officer that observed a Black youth and felt that this young man looked ”Suspicious”and that is where “Our agreeing ends”
As this story continued there are several accounts that have young Trayvon Martin behaving in a manner that would suggest “aggressive” however some debate “Aggravated” at the “ Neighborhood Watch” person. Regardless to which side of the story you find yourself One thing for certain. “ In this sad game”of He said,She said.

1.) Someone had a gun.

2.) Someone knew the rules.

3.) Dead men tell no tells.

4.) He (Trayvon) would not live.

It isn’t all doom and gloom even though there are some measurable differences in the way the world in turning there are ideas of what should occur to create balance.

Oh it was at this point that a new slogan was formed “Black Lives Matter”and it produced a series of unity base dialogue. I however being a part of the “Original People ” observed a few falsehoods, Lies, and untruths that appeared to be counter productive to their “Evolution ”

And as the idea of Parents is not where it was 20 years ago, the Youth have become lost. They have form their own religion (No religion) the have their own laws, and with the peer to peer connections of gangs even those that aren’t in a gang “Pretend are are”

Oh, there was the subject of parents. Usually just a Mother and sometimes a Foster Mom or Grandmother.

These young Men and in some cases young ladies have taken over the homes and now the Adult “Adopted ” their “Language ”

This has infected and in most cases created “Role reversal ” A.L.M…

Lie 1.) The “Hater”

The hater is a common term used to discribe a person or group that:

a.) call you out,when you failing yourself or your community.

b.) attempts at guiding you to social and civic accountability.

c.)reports your missteps, in an attempt to redirect your false identity in order to redirect you.

Lie 2.) Hitting a “Stain”

a.) Taking advantage of someone by manipulating them.

b.) theft of someone’s property.

c.)this property may include Cell Phone, Clothing or Credit Cards.

Lie 3.) “Snitches get stitches”

a.)Tell Police or pretty much anyone about crime or any other bad deeds by “Bad people” The irony of this statement is that “Everyone ” Tells, Reports and informs just don’t get caught…

Lie 4.) Black and Brown “Don’t have a chance”

a.)While in our (Black and Brown) communities see considerable “Crime and Violence” it is a victim of its our circumstances.

b.) The victim statement remains predictable. Us killing Us and them killing them.

c.) The Lie is the same whether in Spanish or English. “We don’t have a chance”.

There are too many “Lies” and though I have mentioned the main ones. “All Lies Matters”
And once they are believed they effect the philosophy and psychology.
A Study of Positive and Negative Effects

Noelle M. Hurd, Marc A. Zimmerman, Thomas M. Reischl, …

First Published March 26, 2010 Research Article

PDF download for Role Model Behavior and Youth Violence: A Study of Positive and Negative Effects Article Information

No Access

Abstract

The study investigated how role models’ behavior may positively or negatively influence African American early adolescents’ attitudes toward violence and violent behavior. Participants in this study included 331 African American seventh and eighth graders from low-income neighborhoods in an urban, Midwestern city. The study used a model developed and tested to assess the relationships between role model prosocial behavior, role model antisocial behavior, adolescents’ attitudes toward violence, and adolescents’ violent behavior. The model developed was assessed using structural equation modeling. Results revealed the following: (a) Role model prosocial behavior is indirectly related to less violent behavior through adolescents’ attitudes toward violence, (b) role model antisocial behavior is directly linked to increased violent behavior and indirectly linked to increased violent behavior through adolescents’ attitudes toward violence, and (c) role model antisocial behavior appear to have a stronger effect on African American early adolescents’ violent behavior than role model prosocial behavior. Possible explanations for study findings and implications are discussed.
As interesting and thought provoking as articles like this are there are several other components that remain. wikipedia.com

I’ve always considered HipHop music as a incidental/accidental culprit because of its rhythmic tone and its poetic lyrics that seem to serve as a chant or mantra seemingly casting a spell over the mind of it servant, followers,converts rendering them powerless to the effect…

There are Single Parent homes,Step Parents,Foster Parents, Grandparents. There is participation or not. There is a heavy handed approach and even abuse. I mean, where are the Fathers ,Uncle,Grandfather  shouldn’t they “Care and Bare” some responsibility..?
There is also the unlimited power of the internet (An all power network that never sleep) Not to mention the diet and the rise of Undiagnosed,under diagnosed “Mental Illness)…
Sometimes the “Lie” may be misinformation,information unknown or Un shared because of the stigma…
And what about “The Churches” a staple in the “Original People’s” community and only there will you find several in a city, Oh they may find a way to justify its presence however it’s flawed when you consider that the “Christian Religion” created and made slaves of “Africans” because “Didn’t the African have a religion”… in fact all religions have borrowed from African Lore.

It seems that the Churches can do more, they show up in our communities on Sunday morning dressed and many will speak and be kind as they enter the building shutting the door behind then. Then “Poof” their gone at least until next Sunday.
Some finally thoughts and considerations, the point made earlier about “ Pulling oneself up by there bootstraps isn’t mean spirited of even far fetched. I mean, there are several immigrant stories that come to mind…
Some have a similar boat story ( that they chose to take) they left family and friends ( also their own choice)
One fact is clear, they came with nothing except the clothes on their backs.and although the story of being kidnapped/sold beaten,branded, raped is very disturbing compared to idea of the “American Dream” So much can be accomplished when there is a sense of hope and promise…
Hope and Promise

1.) Where does it come from and who is responsible for its distribution?

2.) Is there an age limit?

3.) Is there a guarantee that it will work?
Think about it, there are the “Lies”s there is the “Truth”and there is the “Blame” game… and the way that we fix it is we remind each other that….

1.) Life isn’t fair.

2.) Hurt people,hurt people.

3.)Sometimes silence is the best response.

4.)Success is the best revenge.

5.)If you don’t read, you won’t lead.

6.)If you don’t learn, you won’t earn.

7.)friends don’t let friends drive drunk.

8.)There is no substitute for hard work.

9.) Fight fire with water.

10.) failure isn’t failure if you learn from it.

For a little while I believed that I could offer some information and clarity of the “Lies ” and provide a “Truth ” that would expose the “Folly.However, what is true is that  we have a lot of work to do and we will see immediate results.

We have to commit to meet and greet, speak and tweak our  relationships that may become life long relationships. Take, every opportunity to teach our children how to communicate ( in the Kings English) how we can make serious strides in our World if we exercise understanding ,patience and also treat everyone with dignity and respect.

These are the “Lie” destroying keys…

I am a figment of my imagination

not designed as an eye catching quote but rather a proclamation, mantra or even in my case a matter of fact.

Wow that was an earful you see even as a young boy I had a busy mind and one thing that I noticed then but only am understanding now is that”I liked people watching” not only did I watch them,I also created life scenarios for each of them. Kinda creepy huh? But it is what I did,

I also (as a child) had a great imagination and being a child of a single Mom all (4) of us battling for Moms attention the oldest being a girl well you can pretty much figure ( in those days it wasn’t “Cool” or encouraged to be a “Mamas Boy”…

I however was the oldest boy and with a name like “Arnold” you may imagine some of what my life must have been like.
For example there was “Arnold Ziffle” on the T.V. Show Green Acres, and the 70’s Show “Welcome back, Kotter” “Arnold Horshack”…Each were “stellar” characters so what was I worried about going to school.

Well, what if I told you that I hated school and at the same time I loved learning.. for starters I create an imaginary since of being unaffected by the taunts and what we called “Signifying” and ever so often I’d “clap back”.

In the 8th I had a teacher “Mr. Jones” he was a very “Cool” and “Layed back” guy and he also had the command of his class so I was in pretty good shape.
(remember I’m designing my personality) being the oldest and no father in the home in the 60’s and 70’s wasn’t as big of a deal as it is these days “Men” were different. It was around this time that I became interested in bodybuilding and found the I was pretty good and heck I could do more chin-ups, push-ups and sit-ups than anyone and of course this was a nice add,

Heck, or jolt to the “Arnold” brand. In the years that followed I took up Karate and found that I was pretty good at it as welI. weapons were of interest to me and I found that “Nunchucks would be my favorites.
I yet have (6) pair and never leave home without it and guess what.

“More value places on the Arnold brand” I had very few fights and became a hero to my younger brothers of course (another add) there are so many stories that I could tell of my life and all are fantastic and true however the one thing that I feel most important is the fact of imagination (My Imagination) and the power that it gave me to sculpt the Man that was to become and the role that I play in the lives of young Men and Women in the future.

I say it this way “My Fathers Absence Produced My Presence ” “So That With The Mouth That I Chose To Curse Him I Bless Him”…

Does this (blank) make me look “Fat”…? This is a somewhat common statement made by Women concerning clothing that either is newly purchased or hasn’t been warn in a while.I often encourage my friends to avoid this situation if possible, What is unfortunate and sad at the same time is I believe that it’s a setup. Oops, that came out wrong or judgmental to suggest that a Woman would attempt to put her Man in a lose/lose situation.But as a husband. Sometimes, that’s what it feels like because we can get in trouble for the weirdest reasons and then there’s the silence and when we ask what’s wrong. And the response is ” Nothing” …Ok, there are a few rules to the game to insure that you come out on top.1) If at all possible, ask her to repeat herself. a) I know that this sounds crazy. But,trust me,you’ll need a minute.2.)Her comeback may be lethal. “You heard me” b.)Trust me you need a minute. “Gather yourself take a deep breath “She should not hear you”…3.) There are a lot of ways that this situation go bad, real bad, really quicky. c.) Be kind,be considerate and be her “Hero” d.) Ask her “how does it feels and make her feel” e.) Finally. Ask her “what are her other options”Now “Ladies” you are not off the hook…This is actually a Mars/Venus moment. a.) Men do not get it. I mean it…”Clueless” b.) You think (The) day and Men think (A) day Remember Mar/Venus.John Gray In Chapter 2: Mr Fix-It and the Home Improvement CommitteeMen love to have their abilities recognised and appreciated, and hate to have them scorned or ignored; women love to have their feelings recognised and appreciated, and hate to have them scorned or ignored. Men don’t rate feelings highly as in their view they can result in hotly impassioned, wildly unstable behaviour; women don’t rate abilities highly as in their view they can result in coldly dispassionate, aggressively competitive behaviour.So basically we both have some work to do to make our relationships work and no one get out unscathed. The idea is that if we remember that couples only succeed when they are “Committed” Not love,money or Children. Love fades,Money problems/challenges exist and Children move away or don’t move away. However, Commitment is a very powerful thing. No matter what takes place “We have agreed to be together” Wow, “Thank me later”…

“The Plan”

Sometimes it’s easy enough to decide what we want to do in life and then come the. “I want to be famous” Or, I want to be an Entrepreneur” that is such a cool word, It”s such a cool word “Entrepreneurialism” is code for “Doing my own thing.

I just don’t know what my thing is yet”

I  guess and when you and I think about it may be considered “Attainable” and even in some ways easy. What is however the toughest part may be. “The How” and you can’t forget about “The What” because the what is what this story is all about.

We say and think,” in the words of Rap artist Drake “I just wanna be successful’ No plan ,no blueprint and ‘No How’ we have dreams and goals of a life that, we may only see on the “TELEVISION” by way of “Programming” I have a Youtube channel “In my car with my cigar” called Television “Tell-A-Vision” it is programming you and telling you how to see.

when we look at the “Evening News” the last thing on our minds is that the offenders get younger and younger,dumber and dumber. “Did she/He think this situation through? Their life is over “What were they thinking?” they were thinking “I want to be famous” “I want to (Blow UP)” “Everybody is gonna know my name”… You see, we hear it all the time “She has potential” or “He is gifted” these are directionless words like “Visionary’ now it isn’t my intention to discourage you or anyone for that matter.My intention is to help you see (Vision)

1.) A dream without a plan, is a “Wish”…

2.) A plan without a destination will blow your chances of arrival.

It is just like a saying that you may have heard in life. “Garbage in,Garbage out” We must turn off all programming and tune in to our plan and create a roadmap for us as, well as our children. Otherwise there will be no hope. we are being programmed with graphic images to the point that we lack the empathy/Sympathy that is take to make us (Humane/Human).Our stress level is up and down intentionally to put in a state of “normalizing”retaliation (Snapping)

We are weeping uncontrollably as we see animals being abused, and at the same time grabbing our cellphones to film a Woman in a brutal attack. We lack “Civility” “Empathy’ and “Compassion” and that’s “The Plan’ How do we create a plan and a counter plan?

3.) We need to identify the program and as well as deactivate it’s access to our mind.

4.) It will absolutely be difficult because the program has “Suggestion” that are linked to your cellular phone at offer “suggested” programming for you to watch.

5.) Even your reading selection will offer ” Others have also read” they have total access, just watch the advertisements on your “Social Media Account”

The Plan will be difficult and if you want your mind back you will have to disconnect from Television,Radio and SocialMedia for a bit… Don’t panic, only a week.

Start with the T.V. and once you began to understand the ” Program” then work on your Social Media accounts.

the last thing that i would like to leave with you is you must journal, if you have been take the time to see when and where the shift took place ” when you lost yourself” and if you do not journal. Take a trip back through your social media accounts or speak to family they don’t have a problem “telling you that you are nuts”

Sadly most of us have no idea of the things that I am talking about, and of that i say you’re thinking “I AM NUTS”…

“Heads Or Tails”

As a young boy most if not all of our disputes were settled by the proverbial coin toss.

Coin flipping, coin tossing, or heads or tails is the practice of throwing a coin in the air to choose between two alternatives, sometimes to resolve a dispute between two parties. It is a form of sortition which inherently has only two possible and equally likely outcomes. wikipedia.com

It is also used as determining factor of some professional sports and political elections. wikipedia.com

My Son and I had a conversation a while back as we were talking about how much “headspace” we were wasting trying to complete and build our “Brands ” he surprised me when he said that whenever he needed to make a quick decision he’d just flip a coin. I said, ” What” he said yeah. It took me by surprise and I needed moment and thinking of the odds “50/50” I’m thinking hmm, that could work (at least for some of the small things)  Well, couldn’t it???

The Lydian minted the first coins in 10 BC but it wasn’t until nine hundred years later that the coin toss became a decision-maker.

Julius Caesar’s head appeared on one side of every Roman coin of his time, and such was the reverence for the emperor that in his absence often serious litigation was decided by the flip of a coin.

So litigation, Politics, Sporting event all at one time were determined by the flip of a coin. wikipedia.com

I have alway prided myself on the fact that I knew a lot about a lot of things. However, I found an interesting article about mind clutter.

“Never memorize something that you can look up”…

-Albert Einstein-

Just imagine how many things that can be accomplished, how much brain space that can be freed up or how little worry/pondering that will happen “Thank me later”…

There is a 50/50 chance that you are good,and though those aren’t the best odds there is time available for you to focus on other things.And if there is a 60/40 or 70/30 there is no need for a coin toss because you have your answer. Wikipedia

Maybe the idea isn’t to start a new trend. Maybe,we all just need to free up some headspace .

Maybe Einstein has a point ” why not just “Google It”…?

Maybe my Son also has a point “Flip A Coin”…

Either way our lives will be enriched by the idea of getting thing done quicker.

Now would be a good time to say,

Thank you…

Home Invasion 

This case as far as most people would think was open and shut. However it would not be that simple.
It appeared, at least to me to be in many ways it was my fault seeing as I was the last one to go out that door and if you asked my wife she would probably agree.
My wife was the first to notice and screamed “ooww”… I turn towards her to help and there he was this predator had the audacity to violate our sanctity…
I immediately go to the front door in an attempt to usher him out, while my wife goes for a weapon. She is peeved that I am opening the door and at the same time demanding that he die.
Rather than argue with her about morality or the clean up,I continued my course of action and in the blink of an eye, just like that,my wife remembers that she needed to go to the store and while out would purchase some “Fly Spray” and deal with our trespasser upon her return…
We seem to have the idea that these are “pest” mice, spiders, flies etc; are space invaders, however in their mind it appears that they think that they have dibs (The right to be here) For example…

Roommate: A person occupying the same room of another…
Citizen:An inhabitant of a city or town,especially one entitled to its privileges or franchises…dictionary.com
Uninvited guest:: Well there are a lot of definitions on this subject. However, the one that I found interesting is the one that related to basement,attics, inside walls and attics…
I however added this one as a cautionary reminder of whether we except it or not. We intentionally or unintentionally invite “Pest” into our space by the proverbial “Opening of the door ” or the literal “Opening of the door”
And the rage or frustration that we respond/react with in where I want offer some support.
Approximately 2 minutes after my Wife left my “Opening the door ” method allow this invader an opportunity to live out its 28 day cycle (The life expectancy of a Housefly)or at less as far as I know.
Upon my Wife’s return I explained the fact that our home was now “Pest Free” and as she explained her disappointment with the fact that I chose to as she said “let him get away” followed by the words “I don’t get it”…
Watch out this these words as they do not mean..

1)Help me understand…

2)You have a method that I’d like to try…

3)however we can get rid of the pest, I’m glad their gone…
I in these situations I generally choose silence. However I thought “what the heck”and explained…

a) Opening the window or door is a sure thing. Maybe it’s the light or wind shift..

b) It isn’t personal with me…

c) If we/I swatted where might it land…?
Wife: “I still don’t get it”
The “Share” is all about “Pest” and you may take or leave it. But, someone reading this needs to make sure to avoid letting pest and in the event they get inside, be prepared to let the out. Not put him/her out…
Personal peace is “A Real Thing” and it can and will affect all aspects of our journey. So we must choose peace…
There is peace in the valley at least for not, because I chose peace and you should also… The End

Things that my Mom said…

“You don’t believe fat meat is greasy?” was one of the many phrases that came from the mouth of my Mom,as a young “hardheaded” inner city boy on Chicagos south side… “hardheaded” was another such term she used. What amazes me until very day is that without “definition or asking” woe, I was kidding about that last part “we dare not ask” but somehow we understood ….
I guess it had something to do with the tone. Well I miss my Mother, she left us over a year ago a few day before Christmas ( Cancer) she left me and my siblings with plenty to share with our children and grandchildren I however leave little to interpretation just the standard “do what I say or it will be hell to pay”… hmm…I guess the apple doesn’t fall very far from the tree…